Updated: Oct 26, 2020
One third of your life is spent at work and if you’re not enjoying the work you do or the people you work with, it’s time to make some changes.
It is well known that job satisfaction is connected to our health and wellbeing so what can you do when you feel stressed and dissatisfied with the work you do?
There are many reasons you can feel dissatisfied with the work you do and here are some examples:
You find it hard to say no to people when they ask you to do something even if you already have a full load. This can come from a place of people pleasing, not wanting to disappoint people, not wanting to let people down. When we see the disappointment on someone’s face, or they voice it we get hurt as we see it as a form of rejection.
You are bored with your job and it’s not challenging enough
There is no room to grow in your job
You love the work you do but you are having problems with a colleague
You are not passionate about what you do and don’t see yourself doing it forever, but you don’t know what you’re passionate about, so you stay as it pays the bills
You feel a sense that you’re not using your full potential and that the job you’re in does not feel right for you, but you don’t know what is.
You feel stuck in your job regardless if you like it or not because you have bills to pay and you feel like you have no choice.
We cannot separate our work from our wellbeing. More and more people are realising how their work is impacting their mental health.
So what keeps us in jobs that we don’t like?
Our beliefs systems we live by such as:
“work is not fun”
“everyone hates their job”
“I have no choice …”
“I have no other skills…”
“to be a great worker you have to work hard and prove yourself”
What if your natural inner motivators, skills, passion and strengths could be highly valued by an organisation or by people who would like to work with you?
This means you don’t need to do and be someone you’re not.
In order to work in an environment that is aligned with who we are, we need to gain CLARITY around who we are and who we want to be, when we’re not people pleasing or follow social norms.
What we like doing
What is important to us
What gives us energy
What makes us upset at work and how can we learn from that and respond rather than react (emotional intelligence)
We then focus on working with people who have similar interests and values or are open to yours. If you have a boss that has opposing values to you and is not open minded or flexible you will clash with them and find it very draining to work with them.
Here is a little exercise that can help you gain more clarity.
Write down what is really important to you.
Now right down what is important to the organisation you work for.
Are your answers similar or different?
Do you align with what your boss and organisation value?
If the answer is NO there is a good chance you’re not in the right environment.
Why make your life difficult when we can work for organisations and with other people who share similar values to us?
If your answer is YES, then you could work on your thinking and awareness around what may feel off for you at work.
It could be that you overload yourself with work because you feel guilty about saying no. Even though saying no may mean you have less stress in your life and more time to stop and implement more self-care practices in your life, this can be very difficult for some of us who have grown up conditioned to believe that you must work hard to be successful and to be a good worker or person. Also hard for us if we’re working in organisations that don’t value someone setting boundaries around self-care and not overdoing it at work.
It starts with knowing what you really want and who you would like to work with. When you have CLARITY on this create a plan around how to get it.
There are many tools and strategies you can use to help you gain clarity.
The first step I take my clients through is identifying their values. We get super clear on this and then make decisions based of what is important to them. Using this framework can help you understand why you feel the way you do at work and how you can change that.
How Do I know If I’m In The Right Job?
It's not a drag to get up for work
I don't feel drained everyday after work
I like many things about my job
I feel like I belong in that environment