Updated: Apr 27
Start with gathering all the information than narrow down your idea. Often we are missing valuable information when making life changing decisions and pick career ideas that we're interested in but not passionate or excited about.
When we move forward with one idea before exploring our options, we’re perceiving only one option out of countless options and opportunities and this might not be the one that aligns with your purpose or passion.
Watch the video above to do the awareness test and to see how it works.
When we are thinking about our career idea it's important to take charge and believe you have the power to create a career that you love.
YOU CAN CREATE THE RESULTS YOU WANT. You have the power to do this. Which means if you have got to where you are today then you can get to where you want to really be.
Here are some examples of how we close off your ideas and opportunities
I have to do it this way, there is no other way
It's out of my control
I have no choice
I would never....
I hate ....
It really irks me when...
I’ve always done it this way…
I can’t see how that would benefit me…
It’s a fixed mindset and has a negative impact on the decisions we make in life. We all do this because we're human but it's how aware we are that we're thinking this way that counts.
Awareness = Empowerment
I have to do it this way, there is no other way --- There are many ways I can do this. I want to choose one that suits me.
It's out of my control --- I am in control of my results and the decisions I make. I can choose
I have no choice--- I have many choices and I am choosing...
I can’t…--- I can and I will
I would never.... --- What is it about that I am so apposed to, and why?
I hate ....--- What is it about that I don't like and why?
It really irks me when...--- What is it about that that irks me and why?
I’ve always done it this way…--- What would happen if I changed the way I did this?
I can’t see how that would benefit me…--- Am I missing information and do I have a blind sport?
Without the awareness we limit ourselves and what we're capable of. With this awareness we're open to more exciting ideas.
I did this when I quit my job and I had rigid thinking around how I would make an income. I was trying to make money using one-way, one method, one title. I was missing opportunities, and options because my focus was on controlling how it would look. I was also not open to other opportunities as I had said, I just want to do it this way (TUNNEL VISION). This way of thinking did not work out for me and found myself going into debt. It was not until I became aware of my rigid thinking through coaching and counselling that I was able to become more open to other options.
It could be that you want to start your own business and you hate social media, so you give up on the idea or you push through with no or minimal online presence hoping people will find you, limiting any chancers or getting clients.
It could be that you limit your choices and ideas around your career change because you don't feel smart enough, skilled enough, good enough or strong enough to follow a dream you have. The dream life you would love to live. You may think it's only possible for other people and not yourself.
What if your rigid thinking is coming from fear rather than helping you grow?
What could be blocking you from seeing opportunities that may align with your growth and what you genuinely want?
Once you’re clear on:
What you want in life
What is blocking you from getting the outcomes you want
What is blocking you from starting the career change journey
You start to open yourself up to HOW it will show up for you.
The HOW can look completely different to what you imagined it would look like and what you asked for. That's where the saying comes in, ''be careful what you wish for''.
Being open-minded, curious and willing to try things that you’ve never tried before and you will get you much closer to where you want to be and you will enjoy the process.
How does our past influence the way we see the world and the decisions we make?
Our past experiences influence the way we see the world because we have specific associations with labels, experiences, people, animals and events. From that we start to project into the future by making assumptions and believing them.
Becoming aware of how judgments and assumptions influence our thoughts and emotions enables us to be more aware of what is influencing our decisions and results in life.
We can focus on what we want and not what we don't want.
We have the power to create what we want.
If we focus on what we don't want or make decisions from this place and we're missing important information. This is when we create undesirable patterns and outcomes in our lives.
Are we missing important information when we focus on what we don't want?
What is the psychology behind this?
"A self-fulfilling prophecy is a belief or expectation that an individual holds about a future event that manifests because the individual holds it as true (Good Therapy, 2015). For example, if you wake up and immediately think—perhaps for no particular reason at all—that today is going to be a terrible day, your attitude might make your prediction come true. You may unconsciously work to affirm your belief by ignoring the positive, amplifying the negative, and behaving in ways that are unlikely to contribute to an enjoyable day."
Reticulated Activation System (RAS). Have you ever noticed that when you buy a car or talk about a specific type of car you notice these type of cares everywhere? It's because you have brought it into your awareness. This theory also applies to the ideas we come up with, opportunities we see in the world and everyday choices we make. If you're looking at changing careers it's worth knowing that there are ample ideas and opportunities out in the world and you could be missing this information is you're allowing the environment your in and the people around you to limit and influence your ideas and opportunities you take. To explain the psychology behind what happened when you watch the awareness test YouTube clip watch this short YouTube clip on our RAS.
This means we can make a conscious effort to refocus our thoughts towards something we want in life rather than what we don't want and what we find difficult in life.
This does not mean we ignore the difficult stuff it means we process and work through our challenges, past experiences so we can move forward with a plan towards what we want and
what we can do to improve our lives.
GAIN A DEEP AWARENESS
RESPOND WITH AWARENESS
What does it mean to have these worst case scenarios, negative thoughts repeating over and over again?
Something is bothering you for good reason and your body and mind is trying to bring attention to it. You may have created a habit of thinking about the worst case scenario and focusing on the negatives, possibly learnt behavior from a care giver. When we're in the pits of changing careers, life can feel hard and challenging. We can feel depressed and find it hard to focus on the positive.
If I think negative thoughts, will I continue to have negative experiencers? No, not necessarily this is different to you fixating on the problem as opposed to becoming curious about it. There are different ways of looking at it.
It's important that we don't avoid our negative thoughts and emotions and that we don't judge them or believe them
Become curious and see what they're trying to express to you
Validate them by accepting that's how you feel and there is a reason for that way
You address this from a objective point of view where you can start to understand the reasons as to why you think the way you think .
This brings awareness to your situation and is very different to replaying it over in your head and living in it.
Sometimes we can't put a finger on why something is disturbing us.
This is in our unconscious. You can tap into the underlying disturbance in your life that is causing you to feel and think this way so you can start to changing your focus towards improving the way you are experiencing life. Our negative thinking, judgments and fear are the surface level of what's happening for us. If you identify the underlying disturbance you can make changes in you life with clarity.
Our Beliefs, Behaviours, Thinking can happen on an unconscious level.
So what is the unconscious?
You can think about it as our thoughts, feelings and experiences in life that we are not yet aware of. Something may not feel right and we're not quite sure what it is.
Without being consciously aware of it, we are reacting to life rather than responding consciously.
To respond in a proactive way you can:
Become curious and gain insight into what is influencing the undesirable results and outcomes in your life.
Try sitting with yourself in a quiet space and see what pops up. We tend to avoid our unconscious by distracting, numbing and suppressing the unconscious.
To come up with your next career idea sit in a quiet space and for 15 minutes write down all your career ideas.
The best question you can ask yourself when you write down your list is, if I had all the time in world and 1 million dollars what would I do for a career?
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