"I thought to my self this is what being vulnerable feels like. Trusting that it will work out, having the strength to step off the edge and afterwards feeling amazing because I stepped out of my comfort zone. "
This cliff face was not easy to step off, even though I had safety ropes.
Thoughts that were running through my mind and my body responding to this very unusual and foreign activity:
MIND - What do the ropes look like? They looked pretty new, good. So they probably won’t snap then.
What is the rope attached to? A rock, okay it must be safe, they wouldn’t attach it like that if it wasn’t.
Okay, am I strong enough to hold onto the rope because I’m in control of the speed? I feel weak and I’m shaking what if I just can’t hold on?
What if my legs give way? Will I fall straight on my face.
Body - heart rate pumping very quickly and feeling sweaty and hot.
When you're in a highly stressful situation think about what you thoughts are and how your body is responding. You will be surprised how often your body is responding to your thoughts when you're in a different environment.
I had to trust the instructor, trust the ropes, trust the anchor point, trust my body and trust my brain to leap off the edge (okay, step but leap sounds better). I was taking a risk and it felt scary, exciting and exhilarating. What a rush!
I thought to myself, this is what being vulnerable feels like. Trusting that it will work out, having the strength to step off the edge and feeling amazing because I stepped out of my comfort zone.
Believing and trusting we can achieve something through the support from others and most importantly self-belief. Self belief is what keeps us on track when things get hard.
Trust yourself !
What is... shows up in our thinking when we're stepping away from comfort. It happens when we change careers, do extreme sports and something as simple as posting something vulnerable on Facebook.
When we're being vulnerable and changing careers the what ifs sound more like this:
What if I don't like the position?
What if I don't like my colleagues?
What if I don't like my job and I have to quit again? Which means I won't pay the bills.
What if I start a business and fail?
Maybe it's best I just stay where I am as it's too risky to change.
Although these are real concerns, I would concentrate on the what if it works out and I love my job and colleagues?
Ask yourself these questions instead.
What would be the best case scenario?
What are my values ?
What questions can I ask in the interview to find out about the culture and whether their values are similar to mine?