The Emotional Rollercoaster of Changing Careers?

Updated: Aug 9, 2018

You come up with an idea. Then you think but, what if:

  • I don’t like it?

  • The people I work with are horrible?

  • I don’t find work, doing ….?

  • I don’t get paid well?

  • I hate it?

  • I fail because I am not smart enough?

  • I have to start from the beginning again?

…and:


  • Do I give everything up I have worked so hard for to chase an idea I don’t even know will work out?

  • Maybe I am being egocentric for even wanting a different career. Should I just be content with the one I have now?

  • I’m too old


Does this sound like you?




Three years ago, I made a decision to leave my career in science. I had worked really hard and made so many scarifies to get to where I was. I went to TAFE, university, completed my honours year, moved from Yea to Melbourne Vic, Gladstone QLD, Mildura Vic, Albury NSW and Sydney. I was terrified because everything I worked so hard for was not what I wanted in the end. I did this chasing work that I thought would make me happy, only to realise I was dissatisfied and felt like something was missing. When I quit I had a very poor plan and failed 3 more times at finding a career that I would like. I had three more jobs with a lack of direction and understanding of what my motivational needs are. This is why I work with people who are struggling to find a career. I can do this by giving you more certainty, reducing overwhelm and structuring a well thought out plan. Not to say this plan may not change, it possibly will, however if you’re following your values you will be heading in the right direction.


We talk ourselves out of following through with ideas. Why?


  • As young kids we’re conditioned to follow a set path, a path we “should” follow

  • We are exposed to judgment,

  • We think that we need to feel 100% confident

  • We struggle with UNCERTAINITY.

  • We look at statistics and odds, for example, 90% of start-ups fail. We have no more information to tells us why they failed, but it makes us think well, we probably shouldn’t try that then. Rather, let’s find out why and minimise the chance of making those mistakes.


We like to know what the future will bring, however we also value variety. Imagine you knew exactly what was going to happen to you every day. BORRIIING, RIGHT?


We want to avoid pain and discomfort, however, we are already feeling discomfort in our current career that we are dissatisfied with. So many conflicting feelings, right? Why not feel discomfort doing something that will make you feel good because you're working towards your ideal career.


So what does it really take to make a change?


What if you take that leap of faith and go for it?


You will feel discomfort and it is unavoidable. You can’t grow without feeling uncomfortable.


  1. Get to know yourself really well

  2. Write a plan

  3. Be specific about what you want

  4. Be prepared for challenges and set-backs. You will struggle at times and things won’t go to plan. If you have an understanding of what can go wrong and how you can minimise or improve your situation after something has not worked out, you’re less likely to give up

  5. WHY do you want to change careers? If your reason is because of a work colleague or because the organisation you work for is crap, think again. It is always more than that. Maybe the culture of the organisation (or even the entire industry) doesn’t align with your personal values.

  6. Why do you want that job?

  7. Be careful with what answers you believe are valid. If it’s for the money, the status and the high wages then you’re only looking at the extrinsic motivating factors. What intrinsic motivation do you want to live by?

  8. Hire a coach. If that's me fantastic if you find someone else that's great too. As long as you receive guidance to help you through this, you will gain huge insights.


This is what I want you to do.


Ask yourself what if I made a change in my career and I love it?


What does success look like to me?


What is the worst-case scenario if I were to chase a new career?


Who will benefit from me following my idea? For example, your children will see you following an idea and dream and learn that they too can do it.


Write down what you would not like in a career. Include things such as work culture and specific tasks you don’t like doing.


Now write down why you want this change in career and what you think you will gain from it. What do you like about the career? Include workplace culture, personal development opportunities and imagine yourself in that position.


Now, let’s talk. Book in 1:1 session with me to talk about what you really want out of your career. You might have an idea or you might need help to find it. I can’t wait to hear from you.

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