What Do You Believe In, and WHY Is It Holding You Back?

Updated: Feb 28, 2018

We all come up with brilliant ideas but we don't follow through with them, because we believe that it will fail, it's too hard and it won't make money.



Acknowledging your subconscious thought pattern through thinking about what emotions you feel in different situations. You can become more optimistic and change your mindset, which then results in more strategic action. My social upbringing and my parents have ingrained a lot of negative bias thoughts in me. No fault of theirs, it was passed down to them from their parents and so on.


Possible influenced through Greek culture and just simply believing in superstitions where good luck seems to be a rare find. My upbringing was full of a future of possible bad luck. For example, if a black cat crosses your path, you will get bad luck. If you dream that you’re falling or going in a downward direction, something bad is going to happen to you. If you don’t wear a cross and eye necklace, someone has the power to curse you through evil thoughts. This is believed to bring you misfortune. So, with those thoughts in your head you go through the day blaming that dam cat for something negative happening and then connect bad connotations with a black cat, that poor black cat. Further, that lady was giving me this crazy look. I think she cursed me with evil thoughts. I am completely doomed! Once a year we have a New Year cake and mum puts $2 in it. Whoever finds it gets good luck for the rest of the year. Funny though, for those that didn't get the $2, they're also doomed. I like the stories, but that’s just what they are, stories. It’s the impact those stories have that I need to be careful of.


This might be the extreme end of what stories people choose to believe but think about those you believe and ask the questions on whether they are true? Do you believe stereotypes and social norms that you have learnt growing up? Such as, women can’t drive as well as men. Women are not as good as men at using computers. We should never leave a good paying job to study because that’s way too risky for everyone. Are these learnt beliefs? Yes. These statements are not completely true. They are just stereotypes or false beliefs that we have grown up to believe as normal and true. We shape our identity around them and find ourselves lost when we realise we are not doing the very thing we love doing, because of the fear of judgment.


How have we formed our beliefs and what influences them?


We have formed our beliefs from our parents and the environment we grew up in. Our experiences through life shapes our beliefs.


Everyone has a different perspective of their life experiences and they project them onto you when they give you advice. They are called bias opinions.


Giving advice to people that is emotionally driven is a no, no. Psychologist have studied memory and it is clear that we have false memories especially when they are emotionally driven.


You might be thinking, well that's not so bad. Here is why it is important to look at situations from a different perspective and not always believe what you hear or see.


Tunnel Vision

You can get tunnel vision when you are trying to come up with ideas because you think their is no alternative to your situation. An example of this is when you are stuck in a job you hate but you see no way out. You believe if you quit or have some time off you will not survive. Alternatively you can think about finding a career you like, that may take introspection work, getting help and investing in your future.


Certainty

What you believe to be true is how you show up in the world. If you believe you need to be 100% certain before you take a chance at something, this belief will hold you back until you change it. If you find certainty within yourself and you become happy that you are uncertain but you know it's the right idea for you and you take a chance, you are going to grow and work towards a life you want.


Environment (nurture)

Our beliefs can be formed through conditioning from childhood and adulthood. This means that you may not have ever questioned a learned belief from parents or social interactions. Does this sound familiar to you? Teenager - "why do I have to go to university?". Adult- "If you want to be successful in life and have a high paying job you need to go to university". If that is what you believe then you rule out other possibilities or avenues for making money. This is why you do your own research when you come up with ideas.


So what can you do to avoid this,


Starting thinking differently about the advice you get and the beliefs you have.


Intuitive thinking- fast and automatic thinking. This is perfect for throwing ideas on paper. Just use whatever comes to mind. Also use this with identifying what beliefs you have without even thinking about it.


Analytical thinking - slow and reflective. This helps you reflect on your current beliefs.

  • Is it true what you believe about yourself or others?

  • Who has been successful doing this and why?

  • Why do I think I will fail?

  • What if I do fail? What is the worst case scenario?


Critical thinking- evaluate all advice and opinions in a open-minded and careful way. When you are making a choice about something research and ask questions. Talk to people in that industry.


When you don't follow through with an idea, because you believe it won't work out and you feel it may fail, that is when you start questioning your beliefs more. Ask yourself, why will I fail? Are your reasons behind it valid?



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