This is not your typical career advice. I’m not here to tell you:
What to wear
What to say
How to act
What the interviewer expects from you
What really makes you employable?
In short, your attitude.
Everything stems from your attitude as to what career and life you live.
Whether you believe you deserve the job you’re applying for or whether you’re doing it just for the money. If your beliefs around work are negative, then this will filter through to the way you dress, speak, act and project yourself in the work force. This will also filter through when you land a job that you’re not that into (read on to find out more).
“You will experience whatever you believe. And you will believe whatever you repeatedly tell yourself is true.” – Jo Sincero
Do you believe you can enjoy your work?
Do you apply for jobs just to get a pay cheque and find that you don’t even get to the interview stage or you land the job then get bored after a year?
If you have a belief that you’re not experienced enough you may downplay your experience or ability to learn new skills. You may not even apply for the job.
When we quickly dismiss an idea that lights us up, we ignore the reason behind the idea. We’re so busy telling ourselves why we can’t have what we really want, we push it away before we have explored the options and opportunities that relate to our idea. In other words, if we focus on why we can’t have it we block out all the opportunities associated with it, because we see more of what we’re focused on.
You can’t make money from your passion
I met a person at a workshop that is creating a business as a photographer. She loves landscape photography but has a belief that she cannot make money from it. So, she dismissed it as an option within 5 min of saying how much she loves it. I asked her what makes her believe that she can’t make money from it? She did not have a clear answer. This is a great example of a belief that is held as a fact and as a result not trying at all. By the end of the workshop we had explored a number of ways she could make money with her landscape photography, from making beautiful cards, taking people out into nature while teaching them how to take their own landscape photographs and selling her own landscape photos online as well as face to face. Will she make a lot of money straight away? Most likely not, but does that mean she should push that dream away? Absolutely not.
If there are people out there who make money from landscape photography, then this is a belief not fact. You have a choice to continue to believe that belief, that you can’t make money or get that job, or you can choose to create a more empowering belief that helps you follow your dreams – one that helps you grow and gets you out of your comfort zone.
“I love landscape photography and I will explore ways that can help me make a living from it”
This belief keeps the door open to future opportunities that she can create, and she will see them as they will be in her focus. It’s an open energy. The old belief is a closed, push away energy that does not see any opportunities.
I’m just working for a paycheque
If you are doing it just for the money, then you may project a sense of, “I don’t care as long as I get paid.” Why is that a problem? Deep down we do care. As much as we say, “what happens at work stays at work”, this is far from the truth.
A common example of your work life impacting your home life is when people are unhappy at work and increase their drinking. Drinking is a buffer that makes us feel good for short periods of time. It numbs us and suppresses the way we really feel. It is one of many addictions we can acquire when we’re not happy at work or in our life. Shopping is a more accepted addiction in society. We say everything is fine and just suck it up, and other parts of our life and health suffer. It is impossible to separate your work life from your health and life outside of work.
Let’s look at some common beliefs we can hold that are contributing to our attitude towards our career and the love, hate relationship with our work.
“Work is hard and not meant to be fun”
“If you want to make money you need to sacrifice your happiness”
“I am not experienced enough to apply for that job
“I would love to work for…. But I don’t have any experience or skills in that area”
“I’m not smart enough”
“I kind of know how to do that but I’m not that good at it”
“I am afraid to try because I don’t know if I’ll get the job and I don’t want to fail”
“They probably want more experienced people”
“If it’s easy, then I don’t deserve to be paid”
“work is meant to be hard and exhausting”
“Being busy is a badge of honour and distracts me from how I feel”
“I’m too busy to apply for another job”
What if when you applied for work you felt motivated, excited and energised?
Why is it such a foreign concept for us to enjoy the work we do? I am not talking about enjoying 100% of the time – I get that we all have bad days. I’m talking about looking at a job position and feeling motivated and excited to apply for it.
Let’s look at history where the great depression 1930’s was a time of doing whatever it took to make a living to survive and put food on the table. For many, it was a time of surviving. People were not concerned with whether they liked their jobs, they were concerned about getting a job that pays money and puts food on the table, so their family does not starve to death. Although this is still happening around the world, many of us are in privileged positions where food and shelter is no longer hard to attain.
What does the great depression have to do with me?
Many of us are now in privileged positions where we have money to spend on holidays and things such as cars, smart phones and fancy clothes to name a few – all the external things that make us happy in the short term. Internally we have held onto belief systems that our great grandparents passed down to their children, who then passed them down to your parents, who then passed them down to you. Wowzos! so many ingrained beliefs that we were not born with and that were passed down the generations. You’re probably thinking “I’m nothing like my parents”. The reality of it is that we have internalised qualities of our parents or ingrained beliefs from the way they spoke to us and treated us as a children. It’s a hard one to swallow, and once you come to terms with that you can get to work on changing those beliefs that don’t serve you. That’s when you have transformational shifts in your life, whether it’s a completely new career or quitting a job you have felt stuck in.
Our parents wanted us to get an education, a steady job and to put food on the table. These beliefs are no longer connected to where we are as a society today. We have evolved as humans to want more purpose and fulfilment. It is more common than not, that our need for shelter and food is met when we have a job, and we start to look at other ways to entertain ourselves with the income we get. Going on holidays and buying new things only sustains our excitement for life in the short term. The next progression from there is to find more joy, fulfilment and purpose in our lives. This is what it means to grow and evolve in a way that excites you. Our soul suffers when we ignore this urge to follow our joy, we get depressed, form unhealthy addictions and are unhappy with life because we allow fear and past experiences to rule our decisions.
Are you employable when you just want a paycheque?
Does that mean you will enjoy your job?
Yes and no
Yes, if you connect what gives you purpose and fulfilment with making an income.
No, if you sacrifice yourself, your health and your dreams because you hold a belief that you’re not meant to enjoy your job.
The key to having the right attitude is to be 100% onboard internally and externally with the career path you choose to pursue. This is something you work towards and does not happen with the click of a finger. If you have spent most of your life ignoring what brings you joy and pushing through jobs you don’t like, then it may take a year or two to explore finding a career that lights you up and pays you well.
Internal world = it gives you growth, purpose, fulfilment, excitement, challenges, discomfort and comfort and highlights your strengths
External world = it gives you the income you want, house, car, holidays, clothes etc...
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your next career move, book in a career clarity session with me, so you can feel clear about what direction to go in and confident that you’re making the right decision.