From the Noise of a Full House to the Depth of True Connection

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I grew up as the youngest of five in a loud, traditional home. On the surface, the house was full, but for me, it was often quiet. As a "tagalong" sibling and the daughter of hardworking, preoccupied parents, I became a natural observer. I learned early on how to hold space for others’ chaos while my own needs for deep connection and quality time went unseen.

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For years, I felt like I was looking for "the answer" in the wrong places. I struggled through school, feeling like I didn’t belong, and eventually pushed myself through an Honors degree just to prove I was capable. I thought that if I just achieved enough, I’d finally feel okay.​ But achievement didn't fix the loneliness. I spent years "geographic-hopping", moving from Melbourne to Gladstone to Mildura to Wodonga, thinking a new city or a new job in environmental science would finally make me happy. When that didn't work, I tried to "do" my way out of it through marketing coaches, business building, and a year of clinical psychology. I was trying to bypass the discomfort of not knowing who I was.

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The Turning Point

It wasn't until I hit a crisis point that I realized I was living with a relationship addiction. I was using external validation and the presence of others to tell me I was "good enough" or "pretty enough." I was addicted to seeing people’s potential rather than their reality, often at the expense of my own life.

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I eventually found Psychotherapy, and for the first time, the work was in alignment. I stopped looking for exits and started looking inward. I had to sit with the very thing I feared most since childhood: being alone.

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Why I Do This Work

Today, I am no longer that quiet girl tagging along, hoping to be noticed. I am a woman who trusts her intuition and knows her power. After working in high-intensity mental health retreat and building my own practice, I’ve learned that healing isn’t about "fixing" yourself through more doing, it’s about the quality of connection you have with yourself and others.

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I became a holistic counsellor because I know what it’s like to feel emotionally neglected and lost in the noise. I light up when I give my clients the deep, quality connection I once craved. When we work together, you aren't just a "case",you are a person being truly seen, perhaps for the first time.